Red Flags

Do you…

• Feel afraid of your partner most of the time?
• Feel that you can’t do anything right?
• Get embarrassed by your partner’s behavior toward you?
• Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
• Avoid topics or situations out of fear of angering your partner?

Does your partner…

• Humiliate, criticize or yell at you?
• Blame you for his behavior?
• Threaten to hurt you?
• Threaten to take your kids away?
• Threaten to harm your kids or pets?
• Force you to have sex?
• Act jealous and possessive?
• Keep you from seeing friends and family?
• Limit your access to money or necessities?
• Keep you from getting a job or going to school?
• Constantly check up on you?
• Threaten to kill himself or hurt himself if you leave?

Does your friend or loved one…

• Have frequent injuries resulting from “accidents”?
• Frequently and suddenly miss work, school or cancel plans?
• Receive frequent calls from a partner?
• Fear their partner, or refer to a partner’s rages or behavior?
• Lack assertiveness or have submissive behavior?
• Isolate from friends and families?
• Have insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)?

Red Flags of Teen Dating Violence

For friends…

• Their boyfriend/girlfriend calls them names or puts them down in front of others.
• Their boyfriend/girlfriend acts extremely jealous when they talk to friends of the opposite sex, even when it is completely innocent.
• Your friend often cancels plans at the last minute, for reasons that sound untrue.
• Your friend frequently apologizes for their boyfriend/girlfriend.
• Your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend is constantly checking up on them, calling or texting and demanding to know where they have been.
• You’ve seen the boyfriend/girlfriend lose their temper, maybe even get violent when they’re mad.
• Your friend is always worried about upsetting their boyfriend/girlfriend.
• Your friend is giving up things that used to be important to them, such as spending time with friends or other activities, and is becoming more and more isolated.
• Your friend’s weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically.
• Your friend has injuries they can’t explain, or the explanations they give don’t add up. 

For parents… 

Does your child?

• Make changes in their daily rituals?
• Retreat from school or activities?
• Experience isolation from friends?
• Weight, appearance and grades have changed dramatically?
• Make changes in clothing?
• Wear clothing inappropriate for the weather in order to hide marks?
• Have visible marks or bruises?
• Spend excessive amounts of time with the person they’re dating?
• Spend excessive amounts of time in contact with the person they are dating through cell phones and computers?
  
  

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